Our dogs are sensitive creatures who are very good at reading human emotion, but unlike people, our dogs can't reason like us. They don't understand why you're raging mad or suddenly in a fit of tears. Unfortunately, negative emotion, whether directed at your dog or not, can be particularly harmful to your dog. Fears and phobias start to develop, and your dog may even fear you or refuse to come when called if you train him to fear you.
For the vast majority of us, we never intend to create these situations for our dogs. We're not cruel and unfeeling towards our canine companions, but we can create fears and reserve inadvertently. You may not recognize it, but every day, every interaction you have with your dog, is a training session. Training never stops, and our dogs learn quite a bit from us while we're not focused on their immediate training.
The key to a healthy life is to stay happy and cheerful; if not for you, for your dog. You don't have to talk in that sweet and cheerful voice always, but try to avoid harsh, growling sounds and above all, keep your eyes happy and smiling. One of the chief reasons why dogs were chosen as our best friends and companions many thousands of years ago during prehistoric times was because this noble line of creature could read our eyes. There is an unspoken language between people and dogs that allows us to communicate with each other.
For most of us dog lovers, when a dog looks at us we can feel him penetrating our soul. It's a playful glimmer in his eyes. But if he's frightened or angry you will see it in his eyes too. So, the next time you hear yourself raising your voice or feel anger building inside, take a deep breath and focus on control for your dog's sake. You may even find your extra efforts will make you feel better.